So I started my period at the age of ten, and ever since it started, I had two full periods a month. I tried every pill on the market to regulate it, with none of them working. I started on Depo Provera at 16, which wiped out my periods completely. I was given a Mirena IUD at the age of 24 to see if that would help, but after months of constant bleeding and cramping, I had it removed and went back to the Depo. Because of the bone density issue and my myriad of other health issues (gastroparesis, NCS, POTS, fibromyalgia, Ehlers-Danlos to name a few) my gynecologist recommended that instead of going the drastic route of having a partial hysterectomy and taking out my uterus, I should have an endometrial ablation. The first doctor was lovely, called me at home to see how I was doing, and said I was a perfect candidate. Then he abruptly left the practice.
Last Friday, I met the new doctor. He did everything he could to prevent me from having the ablation done. And now he will only do it if, on top of it, I have a tubal ligation. I told him I was a lesbian, and even introduced my wife to him as my wife, and this made no difference to him. He is adamant that I have the other surgery done, in case I get raped or forget I'm a lesbian or something. Not to mention the fact that due to my myriad of health issues, I was told I would never be able to carry a pregnancy to term, the childbirth would likely kill me, so even if I did want kids (which I don't) my wife would have to be the one who carries it for me. It was really insulting. Unfortunately, this is the last doctor I can go to, as the other are in Catholic hospitals, and I've already had a Catholic hospital flat out refuse to perform the surgery due to my lack of offspring. I'm really not sure what to do, because I need this surgery done ASAP because I start school at the beginning of the new year, and it is scheduled for the second of December. Should I just go through with the tubal ligation, even though there's no chance I would get pregnant anyway, barring a rape or immaculate conception? I need some help here.
